Added in my official intro and outro music for the podcast into the Part 10 episode that's going to publish next Wednesday. I like it, pretty catchy, short and feels like me.
For the lunch that I had a few weeks ago , I didn't necessarily feel as engaged or interested as other convos I've had. They were discussing people and events more, which is fine but it doesn't get me as excited as discussing ideas. Just another instance of this happening, which just confirms what I believe and try to live by. I'm not going to try to force anything convo-wise. Comes back to my quote of you can learn more about someone by what's not said.
In a similar manner, that's what I kinda learned about going out with ____. I value getting to know someone not through what they say, but what they do and how they do it. I think I'm observant enough to notice those things, pick up the energy if this is someone I want to continue to get to know. I'll know if they're not the one pretty quickly so that's pretty solid in recognizing that. I also notice body language / facial expressions and can pick up on those. I also learned I play close attention and value the questions that they ask. That tells a lot about who they are, how they think about things, what they're thinking about, etc. I value what activities they recommend to do together and how I feel during those activities. I can get along with anyone on the surface so the slightest perceptions are crucial in determining my feelings for them. Physical beauty is also a thing and I value that a lot as well, as it shows how they take care of their body from a fitness and diet standpoint. I also value them taking risks and doing things differently from the norm. Having different experiences is important in determining who they are and how they've become that person. Being sheltered at home growing up as well as through college and work doesn't allow a full set of experiences. But I guess those are all things that I've experienced. Am I close-minded for looking for these qualities that I value in myself? Can't I learn more perhaps with someone who does have a vastly different experience of life than myself? So I guess the point here then isn't to look for these things explicitly. But to understand their intentions, approach, and mindset to everything. Relating this to Meditations that I read today - when praying, I shouldn't be praying for the exact person I'm looking for. I should be praying for someone who will help me achieve my ultimate purposes and missions and vice versa. Not that I am praying but just following the logic in the book. That's the what. Why do I need to be worried about the how? I can achieve my missions with or without a partner. I think it'd be nice to live life with one but I should be agnostic to it. I can take the same decision of downloading and using the apps with that intention vs another intention of being set on finding someone. So it really comes down to, for me, having the intention of continuing to realize my many purposes of life. And everything after that is a cherry on top.
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