More thoughts from a filled day that I want to debrief from.
Close to finishing up the 1st draft of the book. Should hopefully be in a position to send it out to a few folks by EOD Sunday. I’ve been gaining more clarity about how the various aspects of the Life Blueprint can be integrated into an effective model for someone. Something that’s not just good and fancy to look at but valuable in practice.
Why is there a different connotation for me for practice vs practical? Same root word but stigma towards practical? And positive association with putting something into practice. Connotation that practical is a socially acceptable way of having a limited mindset. That’s one context.
Some are drawn to pragmatism and practicality. Ii can be more aware of projecting my beliefs onto others with my connotations. Some people want a pie in the sky goal and intentionally fall short, knowing they will have pushed themselves.
What the former people are saying is “I just want something that actually works.” If I can meet them with the proof and language that it actually works in someone’s life, then how can they refute that it’s practical? I need to understand what someone’s definition of practical is when they’re drawn to it.
Understanding that specifically will allow me to speak to, reconcile, and find common ground with my perspectives on it.
I’d like to have it used before I put it in the book though so I know its effects. It’s a consolidated and integrated approach to the Life OS. Hopefully simpler too.
Why was I uncomfortable on behalf of others when _____ was talking on the phone at the YA hangout? I felt like I wanted to distract myself. Judgment of his ‘lack of self-awareness’ when we’re there. Implying that I know and have the self-awareness and projecting that onto others. I was also in the moment part recognizing that and seeing the beauty in his message, his passion, his growth, his involvement. A judgment that I know more than him. That I’ve been in his shoes.
Hmm, the projection of my beliefs onto someone whose similar position I’ve been in before. I think that gives me the sense that I know how someone is thinking and feeling. That’s false though. I have the potential to relate to them more but saying it’s like this or that limits the possibility of the different interpretation or perspective of a similar perception, experience, or event. That could actually be more harmful than beneficial.
“I know what that feels like.” → “I can’t fully understand what that feels like. Here’s a similar situation and let me know if this is close to what you’re feeling.”
This could be a way of connecting deeper.
Later, stopped by LaundroLab to ask customers about the loading and unloading zone and overall customer experience. Talked to _____ for a while also. I’m glad I stopped making the excuse of not enough time to do that and actually did so. It’s so nice spending time in there and being in the business compared to just being behind a desk. There’s so much I miss sitting at the office. _____ and I need to spend time together there more often. Immerse ourselves in the CX. Live in it. Breathe it. Habit of going once a week or once every 1-2 weeks. Consistency. It’ll give me more inspiration too.
Escape Room with _____ and new friends after that and a bit of throwback Among Us. Finished it with :27 left!! I’m not sure how much value I was. Probably the LVP (least valuable player) lol. Helped punch in the code to set us free though! The in-character stuff I found cool. Went along with it.
After that, great conversation with Shubham and the crew. Questioning me on so many things related to coaching. How would I not inject bias into the coaching relationship with _____ because of my outside friendship with her? How do I define authenticity? Is life coaching actually going to the root cause of issues or is it just symptomatic treatment? How do I sell and brand myself and attract the right types of clients? Will I turn away people who don’t align with my values or aren’t the ideal client? How do I ask the right question at the right time? Why should someone trust me as their life coach? How do I use my expertise in the future to make systemic change?
Lots of questions I will discover the answers to at a later time when the time is right.
Also, small note. Alex Hormozi says that you can’t learn anything if you’re talking. I’ve found that to be inaccurate for me. I discover new perspectives and ideas all the time when I’m talking with someone. Sometimes I’ll surprise myself at what I said or how I said it. I think it’s a limited mindset to think that you can’t learn when you’re talking. That may be true if you’re saying stuff you’ve already said before. But if you’re being asked questions you haven’t been asked before, thinking about things in a different POV than before, then there’s a great chance I’m learning something about myself when I’m talking. Not to mention the insights about others based on the questions they ask.
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