What did I learn from hanging with Sathya & Goutham these past few days?
That they’re their true authentic selves without any inhibitions. They don’t care about how others will perceive them. They don’t worry about being judged.
Sathya shares his energy with others with ease. Saying hi to others on the run in the morning even if there’s no eye contact. I could learn that from him.
I spoke too much in a matter-of-factly way with them when talking about deep topics. I speak like I’m an expert on a subject when I just have surface-level knowledge. I should really be aware of that tone at the workplace, with friends, family, etc. That’s one of my biggest areas for improvement.
I also learned that I can’t help myself from sparking deeper convos anywhere or anytime. It just naturally occurs when I’m talking in small groups. I think the 2-4 person size group is the ideal size for deep discussions Because you have space to think in those smaller groups. Instead of waiting for your chance to speak, you can take advantage of those natural pauses in the convo to go to a deeper level than before. In a 2 person chat, you’re either talking or thinking about what to say or ask next. But in 3-4 people, it’s small enough to feel like you’re participating but large enough to allow room for unpressured contemplation.
I felt at ease hosting them for a few days because we have shared common values. Sathya has a strong value of being able to have fun without needing the use of external substances. That belief is growing stronger in me as well. So it was motivating to see others like that who truly believe that. Also I have respect for him as he did the 10 day Vipassana meditation retreat. I can only imagine the experiences, breakthroughs that he and others have had at those retreats. I want to do a smaller scale one of these at some point in the near to medium term future.
They were open to discussing taboo topics almost immediately. That let’s someone’s guard down and trust to foster.
I think my apartment is the right size for 3-4 people to come together and converse about perspective-shifting topics. Close enough yet spacious enough. Variability in seating, comfortable enough floor to sit on if preferred also.
In those moments, he said just remove yourself from the urge. Just go on a run without thinking. Do whatever is good for you without thinking. The mind gets in the way. Let your instinct just take over.
I learned that Tai Chi could be my way of getting more into and becoming competent and proficient in dancing. I’ve gained a better sense of my body, balance, and movement so I can relate that to dance. Dance is just sped up Tai Chi. In a sense. I’m interested to see how that translates to choreographed dancing. Over time I guess.
The bar of the whole time for me was said by Goutham on the first night. When we were talking about meditation and doing nothing and sitting still. He said “If you can do nothing, then you can do anything.” *mic drop*
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