I'm bending reality! Awesome instance of me using my intuition consciously that I explain in the vlog recorded Monday.
Why do I feel more comfortable opening up to girls than guys sometimes? Maybe it's a subconscious belief that if I share more, I'll feel validated by those whose approval I may be seeking. Of course it differs from person to person but I may have an archetype of trust associated more with women than men. May be it's because I'd share more with mom (still not even that much overall) through which that belief was built and reinforced. Maybe it's because growing up, I didn't talk to girls that much so I'm unconsciously trying to make up for that now. And since pretty much all my friends were guys through high school combined with the fact that I didn't engage in many 1x1 convos like I do now, I may still subconsciously perpetuate that notion through my actions. It would feel weird talking about feelings with guys since that's not a norm, at least hasn't been societally generally. But that's starting to shift. I still don't share my feelings probably as much as I should with folks but I recognize that and am working towards a more expressive and empathetic person. That's a brule that's been created. That men shouldn't talk about feelings. If anything, men should talk about them more so they're not suppressed and end up manifesting in different health issues. Recently though, I'm becoming more and more unbiased with how and the degree to which I open up based on gender. I feel like I'm using my intuition more with what to say when connecting with someone. I also think girls may trust me more so than guys do but I don't have any evidence of that, per se. Just a guess. I don't think it's any single one of these factors, but probably a mix of these and others that I haven't thought of yet.
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