Why do I want the experience of feeling and being a coach?
I want to help people because I know I can provide value. I also know being a coach is in itself a way of being a student. It’s really just a mindset.
Every job in a sense is just a mindset. We label it to associate some level of authority, pay with it. But I could be any other position in mindset, even if not by title. It’s just thinking a certain way. So if being any position is mentally possible, then we can change / update our identity whenever we please.
I just had to file a few papers and pay some money to be called Founder, CEO, and Coach.
LOL, we get paid to choose which temporary identity we want to have. That’s an interesting way to phrase what a job is. We get to choose which industry we want to work in. Which vertical. Which profession. And we get paid to do that. And we get the opportunity to help others in whatever way resonates with us.
Jay Shetty was saying a purpose is the intersection of 4 things:
What do you like to do?
What are you good at?
What can you get paid doing?
What positive impact does it have on people? And does it resonate with you?
So coaching, Life OS Coaching specifically, at least right now, I like the idea of it. I’m pretty sure I’ll like it once I get paid clients but it’s just a theory right now.
Again, am I good at it? Who knows. But it combines what I’ve found I’m naturally inclined to with systems and coaching. So I can only become good / better at it by starting it.
“There are only 2 mistakes on the road to mastery. Not starting. And not going all the way.”
So I’m starting, now I just have to go all the way. Again, I haven’t proven I can get paid yet but it will happen when the time is right. The impact is people being able to rediscover life balance / happiness and that mission truly resonates with me. Seeing other realize their potential. Achieving an exponential growth. Hurts to see people in the opposite state - imbalance, not realizing their potential, stagnating.
So the idea of being a Life OS Coach is a step towards getting closer to my next identity I want to choose. It’s not proven yet but I’m willing to fail at it. (Using the traditional definition of “fail.”) But I’m also ready to attract unimaginable success as well.
Perhaps a darker ulterior motive is my need to be heard. Or my fear of not being heard. Perhaps this is my way of telling people I actually do have value. And value that I create myself. Not within the context of an existing organization.
Being a coach in this domain, I can be an SME. Which I’m not sure I can say about other things in my professional life so far. ‘What am I excited to be an SME on?’ could be another way to phrase a job.
I have knowledge on marketing and had it on Power BI but could / can I say it front and backwards? Idk if I can.
Well SME is not a destination, per se. It’s a journey of becoming one. I can become one and lose that distinction if I don’t practice it.
What am I excited to continue learning about? What am I looking forward to continue mastery of?
Even mastery is a constant journey to be a master of whatever endeavor. But maybe throughout my life I’ve wanted to be heard and haven’t been because people don’t think I know what I’m talking about. And everything I do not know is an indictment on me, or at least I have thought that way. Even if I had no expectation of knowing something.
Maybe that’s why I place an implicit value on knowledge. The accumulation of knowledge.
Is there a belief that I can ‘acquire’ knowledge and with that knowledge be acquitted of my perceived ‘wrongdoings’? That knowledge is finite. And that I can ‘acquire’ all of that finite amount of knowledge. And I want to show off how much knowledge I have. With that knowledge, the assumption and belief that people will then listen to me. And coaching is a structure where the client pays the coach to give them advice, counsel, pose questions.
There is a power structure there based on knowledge. An assumption that ‘I (as the client) don’t know something or would like to be shown a path forward in whatever area that I don’t currently know or can’t see myself.’
Maybe I have a belief of ‘knowledge is power.’ And with more power I can affect greater change and have a greater legacy.
Why do I want that greater legacy though? Shouldn’t I be okay if this coaching thing never gets off the ground? I should. 0 expectations. 100 expectancy.
Maybe because I have a belief that my life is finite? In one sense, yes it is finite. In another sense, it’s infinite.
I think I need to learn detachment from knowledge. I think I’m attached to it. There is ability to gain knowledge without being a servant to it. With my limiting belief on knowledge. I write notes on everything that I consume. I’m a knowledge hoarder. I don’t want to throw out knowledge because ‘I’ll never know when I might need it again.’
I have this same tendency with actual physical things. This mental and physical tendency to hoard is attachment. It’s created because we believe it’s finite. That there is a limited supply of whatever object there is.
That makes sense physically but what about mentally?
That would mean there is a limited number of facts, or more generally, things to know. And when I keep learning, I realize there’s even more I don’t know. So I’ll never catch up to this ‘finite’ amount.
So how do I detach from knowledge? If I believe that there an infinite number of ways to interpret my experiences (which are also subjective facts), then I can learn anything from anything.
So why does it matter that it has to be a certain ‘fact’ that is the catalyst for that learning? I guess that’s the abstract viewpoint. But to concretize it and make it more in line with out physical lives. I can’t fully renounce my ‘head in the forest’ mentality. Nor can I do the same with the ‘hands in society’ mentality. There is a balance between the two.
In some situations it leans more ‘idealistic’ and in other leans more ‘realistic. I don’t need to write every single note down. Or even all my interesting thoughts down.
I guise some of this limiting belief under the veil of ‘efficiency.’ That I just need to think of something once. That I only want to say something once. That I only want to view / listen / read something once so I can move on to the next thing to learn about. That by consuming something >1 time, I’m being inefficient with my time.
Again, though, this type of efficiency is begotten by a limiting time and energy belief. A fear that I’ll run out of energy.
Lol this is what my Enneagram report told me. So there can be efficiency for efficiency sake or efficiency with the purpose of something. Learning for something specifically and learning for just learning sake to be someone who learns. But, I think, if I lean too much to the latter of just being someone who learns for learning sake without the application of it to some extent, then I actually increase this limiting energy belief.
I’ve become attached to my Life OS. I must detach myself from my creations. Not to have them own my mind. I’m attached to my thoughts as well. I value novel thoughts. So much so that I judge people and myself) by them. And how much people come up with them. I’ve become attached to novel thoughts.
So increasing my awareness is step 1 to having my thoughts, energy, knowledge become detached to my body and mind. Then with that awareness, I’ll be able to better discern when I’m doing something with a limiting belief or if I’m doing it with a transcending belief. And I can find the balance between it all in my everyday situations.
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